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Tips for divorcing dads: How to survive the process

Divorcing dads -- just like all divorcing spouses -- will face a host of difficult emotions. They may find themselves worried about losing time with their kids, losing part of their financial savings and they could be tempted to engage in retaliatory arguments and unnecessary court battles with exes.

Fortunately, there's a better way to navigate your divorce.

Are you considering divorce for one of these reasons?

Many people think that divorce is a result of infidelity, but the truth is that couples divorce for a myriad of reasons. In other words, if you are considering divorce, your reasons are probably just as valid as someone else's, even if your husband was not cheating on you. It could be as simple as the two of you just not loving each other anymore or you might have many very complicated reasons for wanting out of the marriage.

Just as each relationship is unique, so are no two divorces exactly like. The following are some of the most typical reasons people divorce.

Where should I file my divorce?

Imagine you got married in New York, but now you live in Washington, D.C. Depending where you lived when you got married, and where you live now, it could be confusing to know where you should file for your divorce.

The question of where you file your paperwork relates to "court jurisdiction." Essentially, you need to determine which court currently holds jurisdiction over your case -- or, which court has the power to rule on your divorce.

Can I adopt a child?

Local, state and federal governments try to organize the adoption process so that any adult -- who will potentially make a great parent -- can bring a child into his or her home.

However, there are some general requirements that adoptive parents need to meet before they can adopt. It's important for prospective parents to understand these requirements before they engage on the adoption of a child.

What lessons can you learn from celebrity divorces?

The past two years have certainly seen plenty of celebrity divorces. Some of those weren't a huge shock, but others blindsided fans.

Long-term marriages like the more than two decades Cuba Gooding Jr. and Sara Kapfer had before their split and much shorter marriages like the less than two years that Kaley Cuoco and Ryan Sweeting were married all had some good lessons for the public when the couples called it quits.

Gray divorces near retirement can create serious financial strain

Divorce is incredibly common these days. There was a time, no so long ago, when divorce was largely relegated to younger couples. These days, however, it is much more common for older couples to divorce, even after years of marriage. There are many factors that can contribute to later in life divorces, such as empty nest issues, the pressure of re-learning one another after retirement or just growing apart over the years. Some studies indicate that both spouses retiring can increase the chance of divorce.

This trend of divorcing after longer marriages and later in life has played out in popular culture, just as it does in real life every day. For example, Melanie Griffith and Antonio Banderas recently divorced after eighteen years of marriage, while both were nearing the standard retirement age. However, the average couple divorcing in their late 40s, 50s or 60s will not have the financial assets that stars can rely on during divorce. Gray divorce can have a powerful impact on your retirement funds.

How to get what you want out of your divorce

If you are headed down a one-way road toward divorce, you might be preparing yourself to take a firm stand on certain things. For example, perhaps you are dead set on keeping the Washington D.C. townhouse or 100 percent of the retirement account. Instead of focusing on the big picture, you might be focusing in on a few things that you consider to be non-negotiable.

Instead of taking a taking a firm position on certain items, keep in mind that your true goals will result from your divorce being financially secure. In order to do this, you may need to be more open to the options. To achieve a win with your divorce settlement, you will have to attempt to accomplish your most important goal (i.e. financial security) while only making the minimal compromises. This means letting some of the priorities lower down the list take a hit. Read further to find out more about negotiating a beneficial divorce settlement.

The complex process of asset division in Washington D.C. divorces

No matter how prepared you may think you are, going through a divorce is usually a difficult process. You can take certain steps to protect and prepare yourself financially, as well as steps to mitigate the emotional and social fallout of divorce on yourself and your children. However, you will probably still experience a lot of strong feelings and a series of unexpected complications during the divorce process.

Blac Chyna’s child support reminds us the role social media plays

Divorce isn't easy in the best of situations. When you're in the public eye, however, there's a lot of temptation to take your private drama and make it public. Since the advent of social media, doing so has become even easier. Celebrities no longer need a journalist to filter their stories. They can make them available to fans directly. Sometimes, this helps their cases. Other times, it hurts them. Social media, as well as overall familial wealth, likely played a big part in the child support decision between Rob Kardashian and Blac Chyna.

Can young children thrive in joint custody?

A study out of Sweden recently dug into what was best for kids after divorce: sole custody with one parent or joint custody with both. The study focused on younger children, ranging in age from three to five years. Researchers were inspired by the contention from child experts that young children did not fare well in joint custody situations.

These experts stated that young children needed “continuity and stability in their parent relations.” Yet the researchers noted that the practice of joint custody was growing. Was this shift doing young children harm?

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